Q:could you give an example of what would be sapphobic/sapphobia (as opposed to say biphobia)? i mean, i just don't really get the point of the word yet...
Biphobia against men and biphobia against women is actually quite different. There is overlap sure, but how we are treated is very heavility influenced by misogyny, which causes a disparity. For example, bisexual men are told when they come out that they are “confused” and that it’s just a stepping stone to coming out as gay, whereas bi women are told that they are really just straight and “doing it for attention”. The “fake bisexual” trope is overwhelmingly aimed at girls who are also deemed to be “letting the community down” for being “sexually available to men”. Bi women are assumed to have a motive of titilating men by exploiting other women, which is essentially blaming them for their own fetishisiation.
While bi men are erased in the media, bi women are portrayed as deviant sex toys, again for cis male consumption, until they are either killed off or get over their “phase”. While bi men are seen as inconcievable because male sexuality is percieved as fixed, bi women have their identities invalidated because women’s sexuality is percieved as fluid, because “how could they be satisfied with just women?”
Straight men also covet sexually being with two women, but are disgusted by the idea of being with two men. People keep writing articles about how this translates to more acceptance for bi women, as if men feeling entitled to threesomes and sexually objectifying bi women was a privilege, and that is is why we should not push for better representation of bi women. It is not.
Bi women are also statistically the group most targeted for sexual assault and domestic violence, which judging by the testimony of survivors is down to perceptions of them being promiscious and constantly sexually available, which in turn is used to silence and victim blame them. Due to stereotypes of the “hysterical bi women” they are also one of the most discrimated groups in the mental health industry, with even supossedly lgbt-friendly professionals telling them that their bisexuality is a symptom of their “need for attention”.
Bi men are also never told that “women don’t count” when they are asked to list their sexual history, if they are asked at all. The image that biphobes often use to dismiss bisexuality is 9/10 the image of a young, obnoxious, teenage girl, again something that is assumed she will grow out of and is only adopting because “it’s cool” and wants to attract men with.
Those are just a few examples. I think it is important to have a dialouge about differences in how bisexuals are treated, often this intersection is subsummed under the catch all “biphobia” which can be erasive to bi women trying to unpack their oppression, so for me sapphobia to describe this specific oppression could be very handy.
Sorry, did you mean: Human Rights?
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You’re all such good FUCKING people, please send me your addresses so I can mail you all a plate of congratulatory cookies.
definitely always reblogging.
how COULD you go against it? we’re all f*cking human.
rule #381894 of tumblr: you must reblog when you see this on your dash
Seriously, though, why should anyone object to same-sex marriage? If legalizing same-sex marriage makes you question the validity of your own marriage, then maybe your marriage wasn’t that strong enough to begin with.
I’m against same-sex marriage. I believe in a god that hates people based on the gender of the people they’re attracted to, and I didn’t read the first ten words of Amendment 1 to the Constitution. Or maybe I did read it but I’m pretending that it doesn’t exist, or that I’m so special that I can make an exception to it.
Well, for a start it’s same-sex marriage not gay marriage, as that doesn’t exclude those of us who may marry someone of the same sex who aren’t gay (i.e. bisexual people).
Additionally, I’m not sure that allowing same sex couples to marry is the peak of all human rights, it’s good to be allowed the same rights as opposite sex couples but there’s so much more injustice suffered by LGBT people that comes much more under the banner of ‘human rights’ than just marriage rights does.
In 2011 Actor + Bisexual Rights Campaigner Alan Cumming, added his name to Bi Social Network’s "I Am Visible" bisexual awareness campaign …
Campaign organiser Adrienne Williams said, “He’s using his voice to stamp out biphobia and bi-erasure in entertainment, news and media and we are honored. If one bisexual life can be changed by showing that we are everywhere, that even in entertainment there are people like them, then all the better.”
LGBTQ* Poets You Should Know:
Highlighting Bisexual Poets
**this post lists poets who have gone on the record about their bisexuality
1. Yona Wallach
2. Lord Byron
3. Paul Goodman
4. June Jordan
6. James Kirkup
Watch as an idiot named me attempts to explain how biphobia has affected her using poorly-constructed metaphors and absolutely 0% skills in terms of digital art and presentation!
(although several articles neglect to even mention the B word)
In a YouTube broadcast, the 19-year-old London 2012 bronze medallist said: “In spring this year my life changed massively when I met someone, and they make me feel so happy, so safe and everything just feels great.
"That someone is a guy."
"Of course I still fancy girls but right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier."
I need bi trans* poc vampire novels
Oh? There are none?
Hell. Maybe I’ll try writing one myself some day -.-