I really don’t understand diversexuals. t(-_-t)
Shit people say to bisexuals.
I’ve been hoping their was a video like this ever since I watched ‘what lesbians think about bisexuals.’ I mean, it’s not by the same person, but I will take it. I’ve seen people online say all of these and more.
If you think “monosexism” is a problematic term because it groups people of various identities into one category, please also stop using the following terms
- Sexism - and the word “men” - groups together white men with men of color, cis men with trans men, abled men with disabled men, etc. It means that a a queer trans man of color can oppress a white cishet woman.
- Heterosexism - and the word “heterosexual” - groups together cis men, cis women and trans/nonbinary people, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means that heterosexual disabled working class women of color can oppress abled white middle class gay cis men.
- Cissexism - and the word “cisgender” - groups together cis women with cis men, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means a cisgender lesbian woman of color can oppress a white trans man. (You know? I bet this is an argument that radscums actually use.)
- Ableism - Okay you get the point
- Classism - Or so I hope
- Ageism - Because this is ridiculous
Why is this ridiculous?
- Because this is not how intersectionality works
- Each term represents one axis of oppression
- No one term can take all axes into account
- Nor should it, otherwise we wouldn’t have been able to talk about the oppression of any specific group
- No one axis of oppression trumps all others
- To say that monosexism inherently and necessarily trumps all other axes is to derail the discussion
- Is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a white bisexual cis man? Of course not.
- But that is not the question
- The question is: is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a black bisexual trans woman?
- Take a look at some of our statistics, and then think about that.
- Then take a look at how I, the person who wrote the monosexual privilege checklist, wrote, time after time, about how the list is meant to draw attention to straight people and away from gay and lesbian people.
- Then take a look at my book, which includes the list, and is about intersectional bisexual politics, with chapters about how monosexism works at intersections between bisexuality and women (including trans women), men (including trans men), trans and nonbinary people, and people of color.
- And was written by a bisexual genderqueer disabled person/woman of color.
- Then after you acknowledge all that, maybe we can start having a discussion.
[Note: I trust tumblr will ignore this post much like any other that I make about monosexism and monosexual privilege because I guess I’m making too much sense? But - just in case it gets around, know that I may not be following up, as per low spoons. Hate to my ask box will be deleted.]
This is my first draft of a proposed multisexual flag as part of my push for increased unity between the bi, poly, and pan community. The top stripe is pink and the bottom is blue, the same as the bi, poly, and pan flags. The middle three stripes are the middle stripes from the bi flag, the pan flag, and the poly flag, from top to bottom. This flag is intended to represent unity between multisexual orientations. I hope I’ll see more posts to the multisexual tag in the future as well as more conversations between communities. If you have any comments or suggestions for the flag I hope you’ll message me.
fun fact: in French, “bi”, as in “bisexual” or “biromantic” is pronounced “bee”. (confession: I pronounced it the same in english for the longest time and I still have to correct myself a lot)
coincidence? maybe. but.
- bees are important.
- bi people are important.
there’s a pun connexion to be made somewhere but I’ll let someone smarter make it.
… bi tumblr didn’t just magically make up the word monosexual. It was a term used for plants. Ya know?? Like bisexual. They were both used for plants!! Bisexual plants have both stamens and pistils. Monosexual plants have one or the other. Seeing as ‘mono’ means one, it made sense for people to apply that to sexual orientations for people who are only attracted to one gender. Ya know?? The exact same way ‘bisexual’ began to apply to people instead of just plants. It’s just amusing how people think we took time out of lives to make up a word JUST to lump gay people with their oppressors. Not to mention there’s a decade old post on fucking Urban Dictionary using monosexual.
Also, I just looked at the talk page on the Wikipedia article for monosexuality and someone refers to the “monosexual flame wars of 1993-94” so yeah the word and the arguments around its use predate Tumblr by a LONG way!