Q:Hi! I know you made that post like forever ago, but I only recently realized that the bisexuwhale was a popular thing. Anyway, I'm the person who made it, and I just made a redbubble account if you still want it on a shirt!
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This is important, and I hope some monosexuals see this. I would like to add to this, don’t use polysexual as a synonym for multisexual. Polysexual is a separate identity (sadly left out in this article.) If you are not multisexual, but are among the monosexuals who see that bisexuals do in fact face stereotypes and discrimination, please check out the link to see how to be a proper ally. If you are multisexual, you may also be able to benefit from the information. I think this is a great summary of how you can fight against erasure. It is difficult for us to fight our own erasure, as our opinions on a topic in which we should be the primary voice are often ignored in the name of continuing erasure. If we are in the closet, we will let erasure slide as an act of self-protection. Asexuals, you are among the most accepting groups I’ve seen, and may choose to read this. Much of it will be familiar to you, as you face similar issues to multisexuals.
(link fixed - you were missing an ‘f’ on the end!)
Original credit goes to fandomsandfeminism.
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Is there anything more boring to put in a piece of shit bigot blog’s sidebar?
Also, “homosexualist malaise”? Sounds like an awesome rock group, sign me up for some homosexualist malaise.
I saw this post in the tags and just scrolled past it because I thought it was just a repost of the original that I’ve seen around a lot already - but now I realise that’s not at all what it was >.<
11 Bisexual Characters That You Can Watch On TV Right Now
1. Prince Oberyn Martell of Dorne and Ellaria Sand - Game of Thrones (Supporting Cast)
Oberyn and Ellaria are recurring characters in the fourth season of Game of Thrones. Ellaria and Prince Oberyn are openly bisexual lovers and parents to four daughters. Oberyn and Ellaria first arrive in King’s Landing as wedding guests of Joffery’s wedding. The pair are as violent as they are sexual and get caught up in some serious tension between other characters. Oberyn is especially keen on revenge for the rape and murder of his sister Elia Martell.
2. Kieren Walker - In The Flesh (Lead Cast)
As a Partially Deceased Syndrome (PDS) sufferer, Kieren rose from the dead during The Rising and hunted the living. After being captured and medically treated, Kieren is sent back to his hostile small town of Roartown, where he must live with his family and deal with the memories of everything he did as an untreated zombie.
3. Joe MacMillan - Halt and Catch Fire (Lead Cast)
Joe is a manipulative, charismatic, and hard working former IBM sales exec who’s trying to get his piece of glory in the tech boom of the early 1980’s. With the help of engineer Gordon and programer Cameron, the trio attempt to revolutionize the computer industry with big ideas. His romantic relationship with Cameron and past male lovers are explored, giving an complex backstory to his sleek but disruptive presence.
4. Kalinda Sharma - The Good Wife (Lead Cast)
Kalinda is the savvy in-house investigator of the Lockhart/Gardener law firm based in Chicago. In her signature leather boots, smartphone, and notepad, Kalinda is exceptional at her job, but her tactics aren’t strictly legal. Kalinda is extremely secretive about her past and keeps people at a distance, however she has various relationship with men and women throughout the series.
5. Mulan - Once Upon A Time (Supporting Cast)
Mulan is a recurring character in the second and third season of Once Upon A Time. In the series, Mulan is shown as having strong romantic feelings for both men and women. In the past, Mulan proved herself as a battle warrior by serving in the emperors army in her native land of China. She becomes involved in helping Storybrooke after befriending Belle and Prince Phillip. She aids her new magical friends in lifting curses and fighting evil in the name of good.
6. Dr. Callie Torres - Grey’s Anatomy (Lead Cast)
Calliope “Callie” Torres is the charismatic attending orthopedic surgeon and board member at Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital. She is married to Arizona Robbin, with whom she has one daughter, Sofia. Her appearance in the series spans several seasons, detailing her often chaotic love life with both men and women. Her journey of discovering her bisexuality and maintaining a relationship with her family are key parts of her story arcs.
7. Zero - Hit The Floor (Supporting Cast)
In the world of professional basketball, success and recognition means everything to a player. Zero, a former Ohio Forward is bought into the Devils to help secure the team a basketball championship. The newcomer quickly becomes rivals to the team’s two other star players. Zero is smart, sexy, and above all else, well marketed. Zero gets involved in a sexual relationship with a man and a woman, but is not openly bisexual out of fear of losing his popularity.
8. Piper Chapman - Orange Is The New Black (Lead Cast)
Piper is a naive self described WASP from the east coast. After being named in a case of international drug trafficking, Piper is separated from her fiancé, Larry, and is charged with criminal conspiracy. In prison she encounters a host of incarcerated women full of character, including a Russian cook, a transgender hair dresser, a delusional bride to be, a violent religious zealot, and her drug dealer ex girlfriend. Piper Chapman is based off of bisexual author Piper Kerman.
9. Nolan Ross - Revenge (Supporting Cast)
Nolan is a genius computer hacker and software inventor who comes to the aid of Emily in her plot of revenge against the wealthy Grayson family. As an out bisexual and a self described ” 3 on the kinsey scale”, Nolan is shown as being involved with men and women throughout the series.
10. Bo Dennis - Lost Girl (Lead Cast)
Bo is an openly bisexual succubus, a female Fae who feeds off the sexual energy of both humans and Fae of any gender. She is fiercely independent and always on the run, breaking any rules to make sure that she can stay below the radar. Everything changes when she breaks her first rule, exposing herself to save a human. After saving serial thief Kenzi from an attempted rape, Bo is thrown into a whole new world and is forced to confront exactly what she is, and a lot of eyes are watching.
11. Angela Montenegro - Bones (Lead Cast)
Angela is a proud API and is a specialist in forensic facial reconstruction at the Jeffersonian Institute. She is a free spirited and extremely talented artist, having been trained in the arts. Her open and caring nature makes her a nurturing figure to her coworkers who respect her greatly. In season four of Bones, Angela comes out as bisexual to her friends by revealing her past relationship with another female student in art school.
I want to make a monosexism master post
Bi Tumblr - would you be so kind as to give me links to stuff you’ve written about this? Anything which you think makes a good point (including responses to others’ posts).
Please link in reblogs, not to my ask box, thanks!
BACKLASH WILL BE IGNORED, DON’T EVEN BOTHER.
Some ways in which gay and lesbian people benefit from monosexism
First - some background:
- I’ve been seeing more and more people on tumblr arguing that monosexism can’t exist because gay and lesbian people don’t benefit from the oppression of bi people
- This is a rebuttal of this argument
- However, monosexism isn’t about gay and lesbian people
- Seriously, read the links
- No, SRSLY
- Pulling the discussion that way DERAILS IT YET AGAIN and draws attention away from the real issue - centering it around gay and lesbian people when it’s supposed to be about bi people and our oppression
- I’m posting this anyway because JFC already
Now, some statistical facts (sources are linked):
- Gay and lesbian people suffer less from suicidality
- Gay and lesbian people suffer less sexual violence and intimate violence
- Gay and lesbian people are less in poverty
- Gay and lesbian people are less in need of food stamps
- Gay and lesbian people are far less closeted at work
- Gay and lesbian people are less erased in the media
- Gay and lesbian youth are less bullied online
- In years 2008 and 2009, out of over 200 million dollars given by US foundations to LGBT organizations as grants, not a single dollar went towards bisexual-specific organizations or projects. Trans exclusion notwithstanding, that means (white, cis) gay and lesbian people got pretty much all of it.
- And there’s more
- And more
- And even that’s partial
Social benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):
- Bisexual erasure stabilizes the heterosexual/homosexual binary. Acknowledging that it exists would insinuate that sexuality is changeable, making it impossible to argue that gay people were “born this way”. So monosexism makes it easier to legitimize homosexuality.
- Bisexual erasure makes it possible to create (usually binary, cissexist) gender-segregated gay and lesbian environments. Because bisexual people always carry the “threat” of being with “other genders” and then “bringing them into the community”. So monosexism makes it easier to organize and maintain gay and lesbian communities.
- Bisexual erasure makes it possible for gay and lesbian people to use respectability politics with regards to sex. Because bi men are viewed as closeted men who sneak out to have unsafe anonymous sex behind their wives’ backs, and because bi women are viewed as sluts who make lesbians look bad because they’re “sexually available to men”. So monosexism makes it easier for gay and lesbian people to appear sexually “moral”.
- These are all points made by gay scholar Kenji Yoshino (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.
Material benefits (all elaborated in my book please just read it if you want to know more, I promise it’s all in there):
- Gay and lesbian people benefit from the work that bi people put in promoting and being active in queer movements/communities without having to credit them or give anything back to them.
- Because bi people are excluded from leadership in these movements/communities, gay and lesbian people are the leaders and decision makers. That means they control communities’ agenda, money and resources.
- Since internalized monosexism often makes bi people believe that bisexuality isn’t important enough to organize around, many contribute most of their activist time and energy to promoting gay and lesbian issues - again meaning queer movements benefit from the work of bi people at the expense of bi people and movements.
- And of course there’s the part where (as stated above) almost all LGBT money goes to the GGGG part of it, and that bisexual people actually earn less money than gay and lesbian people.
- These are points made by bisexual scholar and activist Miguel Obradors (and elaborated by me in my book). Go read his article.
And then there are other side privileges…
Then combine all this with the fact that bi people are DISPROPORTIONATELY WOMEN, PEOPLE OF COLOR AND TRANS PEOPLE. Then do the math.
Want to know more? Follow the goddamn links.
[Image: Samuel L. Jackson from the movie Pulp Fiction aiming a gun towards the camera looking angry (Say What Again meme). Top text: “SAY MONOSEXISM DOESN’T EXIST”. Bottom text: “ONE MORE TIME”]
On the importance of safe spaces for bi people
- Because everywhere else we are silenced
- Because everywhere else we are erased
- Because everywhere else requires us to narrow ourselves down, to hide and disappear
- Because we can’t talk about ourselves fully, ever, anywhere
- Because we can’t participate fully in any other space
- Because any other space will accept us on condition that we don’t mention our bisexuality or even talk about it
- Because everywhere else leaves us isolated
- Because everywhere else we grow to believe that we, as people, are flawed, that there must be something wrong with us
- Because we can never be part of straight cultures and communities
- But when we come seeking refuge in queer and trans communities, we get our hearts broken by the very people we thought would understand
- Because we are forever partial
- Forever scavengers
- Because so many of us are also trans, disabled, poc, women, working class people, sex workers… we straddle so many intersections and each one adds another circle of alienation, oppression
We need our places, and we need them to be intersectional, because
- We need each other
- We need the solidarity of our communities
- We need the support, the validation and the love that only our communities can give to us
- We need to alleviate that isolation, that loneliness
- We need to talk about ourselves
- And to each other
- We can breathe fire into each other and fill our hearts with rainbows
- Change society
- Create revolutions
When I say "cis people" you don't assume I mean gay and lesbian people, so why the hell would you assume that when I say "monosexuals"?
what does this mean? sorry i’m confused. Like, ‘cis people’ does include gay men and lesbians and people of all/any orientation?
… why aren’t you including gay and lesbian ppl when you’re talking about cis people…. ALL cis…
I think the reason that gays/lesbians have a problem with the term is because it insinuates that gays/lesbians are privileged for being attracted soley to the same sex and that they are privileged for the same reason they are oppressed and erases their struggles and homophobia in general. The term monosexual insinuates that gays/lesbians are privileged because of their sexuality which obviously isn’t the case. so it’s silly to use the term “monosexual” when the term that should be used is straight, because they’re the ones that are actually being privileged.
That’s actually an adaptation of a TERF argument against cissexism, which says that cis women can’t be privileged over trans women since they can’t be both oppressed and privileged because of their gender.
But they are.
I think gay and lesbian people have a problem with the term “monosexism” because it centers the discussion around bi people. In any context, anywhere and in any way, people will always make huge efforts to silence and eradicate bisexuality and the voices of bi people who talk about it. Using the term “monosexism” overturns the power balance so as to give voice to bi people, our experiences and our oppression. The criticism against “monosexism” is an attempt to stop, silence and eradicate this.
there’s been a lot of chats about safe spaces for bis on the bi tumblr tag thanks to the bitalks topic and i accidentally made this disgusting comic about feelings
Q:I'm a bi women, not white, not from US. I'm glad I found bi tumblr, but I also think bi tumblr can do more progress by listening and giving space to non-US bi people. Narratives on Tumblr (not only bi tumblr) is so US centric, and too frequently forcing the narratives to other countries. It leaves bad taste in my mouth actually, reminds me of colonialism.
Agreed, other than Shiri Eisner who lives in Isreal I can’t actually think of any poc bloggers other than from the US, the UK and Austrailia that post in the tags frequently or have a huge presence on tumblr at least, we definitely need to do more.
Maybe we need to start a master post? Otherwise bi tumblr keeps pretending we don’t exist. For now I only know of these bi-bloggers for sure:
South America: queerasgob
Feel free to add yourself/others, so I can get a list started :)
Oh no, I totally forgot you were from Eastern Europe, I suck I’m so sorry. Plus please add names to this list for the masterpost, it would be really good to have one and I bet there are tons more blogs out there.